I have been giving public talks lately on the topic of practicing self-acceptance and self-love in one’s life. One of the quickest and most effective ways to positively change the way you feel about yourself and the way you present yourself to the world is to STOP GIVING A VOICE TO YOUR NEGATIVE SELF TALK. Getting rid of the negative thoughts? That is a much taller task! The repetitive derogatory thoughts we say to ourselves can be deeply ingrained patterns. In yoga philosophy, any type of repetitive thought pattern is called a ‘samskara’. Much like the needle on a record that gets stuck and skips on the same spot, over and over again, a samskara is a thought or neural pathway, that repeats itself until it gets stronger and stronger. We must use the practice of yoga, meditation, and mindfulness to pick up the needle on the record and start it on a new track. By not speaking negatively about ourselves, we start to weaken that neural pathway we have created. When we complain to our friends about how stupid, fat, clumsy, awkward and inferior we are, we channel potent energy in that direction and manifest those perceived negative qualities as our reality. If we can learn to internalize the negative self-talk, some of the energy around these thoughts starts to dissipate and weaken. Soon, we find we aren’t critiquing ourselves internally as often as we used to. Soon, we start to step into a new way of being in the world. We begin to become the person we were always meant to be.
I do slip up, but try to get back on track immediately. This simple commitment has made an immeasurable difference in my self-esteem and self-worth. I am with you!